07 Jul 2025
Introducing a 24/7 AI mediator for couples built on evidence-based therapy techniques.
A presentation on an AI-powered mediation bot designed to help couples communicate constructively during disagreements. Built on research from Gottman's Four Horsemen, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and active listening.
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The Problem We All Know
Disagreements happen.
- Couples argue about many things: time, responsibilities, money
- Emotions run high, communication breaks down
- Same arguments repeat without resolution
- Therapy is expensive (₹2000-5000/session) and not always available
- Conflicts don't wait for scheduled appointments
What If You Had Help When You Need It?
- A neutral third party available 24/7
- Someone who helps you communicate constructively
- Remembers your ground rules and past agreements
- Costs a fraction of therapy
- Private - just you, your partner, and the mediator
How It Works
- Sign up in a secure app with end-to-end encryption
- Invite your partner to a private room
- Invite the moderator bot to your room
- Have your conversation - the bot listens silently
- When stuck, invoke:
#pause - Bot provides guidance - reframes, suggests, reminds of ground rules
Jay: "You never listen when I talk about work"
Anusha: "That's not fair, you always bring it up when I'm busy"
Jay: "See? You're doing it again"
Jay: "#pause"
Bot: "I notice you're both feeling unheard. Jay, it sounds
like you want more engagement about work. Anusha, it seems
the timing is often difficult. Can you each try 'What I need is...' instead of 'You always...'?"
Key Features
- Intelligent Mediation: Reframes attacks into requests, identifies underlying needs, prevents circular arguments.
- Contextual Memory: Remembers ground rules, references past agreements, tracks patterns over time.
- Privacy & Security: End-to-end encrypted messaging. Option to self-host for full control.
Evidence-Based Foundation
Built on research from:
- John Gottman's Four Horsemen (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling)
- Nonviolent Communication (observations, feelings, needs, requests)
- Active Listening techniques
- Conflict resolution best practices
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